Thursday, April 24, 2014

back to it..

For the past 3 days, I've gone at it alone.  Fireman is out of town on business and I'm losing my mindddddd... I've changed 800 diapers, I swear all of which were dirty.  WTF kid?

Right now, said child is in a horrific mood and has done nothing but hit and kick.  He's into headbutting, my arm is bruised. I'm annoyed.  My workout last night sucked, it was a competition of sorts and I should've won.

Needless to say, I'm ready for him to be home and tonight cannot come soon enough!!!!

He won't be home very long, then he's off again to fire training.  =/  Suckkkss.  I'm already dreading it.  since I've started this new workout kick, which is a 'lifestyle change' completely, finding time to go the gym is unbelievably difficult with three kids and no husband at home.  I'm now admiring single fit moms! More power to them!!

We talked a lot after my last post, which i took down.  I woke up early one morning and freaked out.  I thought I'd accidentally said a name or location in my writing and I took it down to comb through it.  I trust my blog circle, but i have no idea who peeks at my posts and leaves no comment or trace of them being here, you know?

Back to the point, we have decided to give it another go.  We had a couple of play/maintenance sessions and I think it gave that fire back to us (haha, no pun intended).  we haven't set up specific rules or anything, but it's there.  It's not an elephant in the room, it's not uncomfortable, it's just there.

Now, how many hours left til 10pm?



  1. I think my advice is to just try to keep relaxed and go with the flow. It seems to me that once you get too stiff with rules and such, it becomes a chore. Yet if you stay flexible and enjoy it, it starts to evolve in ways you don't expect.

    I know just how you feel about small children and away husbands - been there done that, and you have one more child than I had. I think you're doing great! Just think of me in a week or two't time when I have my grandkids all day. I just end up running out of ideas what to do with them by teatime. Good grief I know why we have our kids when we are young. The very thought of going to the gym leaves me gasping.

    Lots of hugs, honey.

    1. Thanks! I think that's going to be the key for us. No strictness in everything. :)

  2. Hang in there... Yes, work out time with kids is TOUGH. You stay strong. It was a life changer for me. I agree with Ami. Go with the flow. As we have all said so many times, make it what the two of you want it to be. I had a hard time not comparing us to "others" until The Man said.. I'm not married to them, and you aren't either...

    1. It is a life changer. I am feeling amazing about everything since I've been hitting the gym hard. I've lost some weight, toned up in some places and am overall feeling so much better about myself. That by itself is really helping us!

  3. Hey Elle...It's now after 10pm so I hope you and your Fireman are enjoying your reunion.

    I can very definitely understand where you are coming from with the kiddos and I only had two. The best advice I can give you is to just breathe...Here are a few suggestions which helped me: fix very simple meals, don't worry about a "clean" house, pick up the worst so you don't break a leg on the toys and make sure you don't get stuck to the floors when you walk through. Other than that, let it go.

    As far as getting to the gym for you lifestyle can only take on so much. I "worked out" with my kids...they thought it was a game, we all got a good workout and added benefit...I wore them out! :D

    Sending lots of positive energy and thoughts your way.

    Hugs and Blessings...

    1. I've been working on not going crazy over the toys!! It's hard, but it's almost inevitable here! Lol :) thanks cat :)

  4. Too many hours left, until there are only minutes... hang in there.
    It probably doesn't help much but I remember having three little ones, all under the age of four and Ty working away for long periods of time. Okay, I don't really remember because it is all a foggy blur of my life. Yet, now they are 17, 18 and 20 (plus 2 more) and I survived it. Don't know how, I just remember missing Ty and watching the clock, waiting for him to come home so I could just breathe.
    If I give you a little piece of advice about DD, I hope you won't mind. Instead of focusing on specific rules, be general and follow what we call the 4 D's. Dangerous, Dishonest, Disobey and Disrespect. As you go along you might find the need of specific rules but stick to these. Dangerous - running out of gas, forgetting a kid at school (lol), forgetting to take medicine, anything dangerous to yourself or your family. Dishonest, I am sure that is self explanatory. Disobey, well not being doing what he has told you to do, no matter if you agree or not. Though Fireman should always be willing to listen to your objection before he puts his foot down. And the last one, which is my biggest issue, Disrespect. That would include any snarky remarks, giving him the finger, sticking out your tongue, arguing and being rude, making fun of him, that kind of stuff. Then if there is a specific rule that comes up, add that to the four D's.
    This helps to make things less stressful and overwhelming when trying to make the DD dynamic work. And if helps when he is gone and can't monitor every single thing you do.
    Hang in there with the babies and I will be hoping that Fireman comes home soon, safe and sound.

    1. I always appreciate your advice blondie! It's welcome anytime! I like that idea and I'll definitely bring it up to FM. That sounds like something we can get down with!!

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  5. Hugs Elle, hang in there! I hope you and FM had a wonderful reunion. I agree with the others, go with the flow. Take things slowly and let it evolve.


  6. Aw, I'm glad he's coming home soon! That sounds like a heck of a lot of dirty diapers! ;)

    I'm happy to hear that you guys are back at it. Sometimes when it's just there, that's all you need. It can be a pretty good feeling. :)