Wednesday, January 15, 2014

A new year, birthday, & slump

It's been a while. How is everyone? I haven't been reading much, but I've read a little every now and then. Sounds Reads (lol) like everyone is doing pretty good. 

We had a great Christmas, great New Years. The holidays were altogether really good. I actually think there were ZERO arguments while fireman was home on vacation for the holidays. Super rare for us - volcano and tornado that we are, it's easy for us to have a blowup eventually. But nothing. It was great. We had some maintenance and some super hot sex. We even had a date night or two in there. :) 

Then work and school and kids got back into a routine. I got into some kind of slump. My brain was just foggy. I was just not into anything. Anything. So maintenance fell behind. I don't think there were any punishments, but they fell away too. 

The kids' activities have resumed and I feel like everything is nonstop. Fireman was gone over the weekend, so it's been endless days for me. I have trouble falling asleep, so then I'm tired all day when it starts again. 

I wanted my check-in post to be all upbeat and positive, but it's just not. I'm back to being in a funk. Don't get me wrong, I'm absolutely trying my best at just about everything. I'm trying to keep the house (mostly) tidy and clean. Laundry isn't too bad, dishes are almost always done. But things just aren't right. 

I can't quite put my finger on it.

I know it's that closeness that's missing too. To be honest, I have no interest in putting forth the effort to fix it. I'm okay. But that's just it. It's just okay. 

I'm not sure that anything will make sense to anyone else. And maybe I'll end up posting and then taking it back down. Who knows. :) 

It's a drought. I'm sure some of you will understand. The more sex you have, the more you want it. It's that way for maintenance with me, too. The more it happened, the more I wanted it. But, neither have happened. So I don't have an interest, you know? 

I'll talk about it with him during the day sometimes. We will talk about getting things back to where they need to be, but then at the end of the day, I'm just tired and not into it. At all. 

I've even said he should wake me up so we can shower together. That was supposed to happen the last 2 mornings... But the first, he didn't want to wake me. I had so much trouble falling asleep the night before that he felt I needed the sleep. Then, this morning I didn't get up. 

I don't know. It's just a little cloudy around here. 

My birthday is coming up. A new decade and I'm kind of struggling with it. I know.. There are many people who don't get to see this birthday or more birthdays. I know. But I'm still struggling with it. 

We aren't arguing. No fighting. Not really any disagreements. It's just not quite right. 

So, let me know how you're all doing. I miss blog land! 

Ps- I wrote this on my phone. Excuse any crazy typos! I've fixed all the ones I caught while typing, but I'm sure a few slipped through. :)


  1. I have said that to SM before... the more we have sex the more I want. The more he spanks the more I want. And likewise, the less... the less.

    Hope you guys get your groove back soon just because being okay isn't always enough. Sometimes HOT is better :)

    sara :)

  2. Hi Elle, It's good to hear from you :) Glad you had a great Christmas and New Year. Sounds like you and FM had a wonderful time together over the holiday and time to just be together, connect and enjoy each other.

    It is hard when work and school kick in again and things go back to normal routine. Especially so after a period of connection. Hang in there. I'm sure things will even out soon :)


  3. Hi Elle ... I know the feeling and in some ways it's worse than being in the middle of a disastrous argument - limbo where you are neither here nor there - good luck reconnecting ava x

  4. It's not unusual to have a slump, after all the business of the holidays. I think sometimes that time is so busy that we have been running on empty for a while. It takes some rest to get us back to "normal." Not being able to sleep, doesn't help matters. I suffer with insomnia. In fact it is the wee hours now. I hope all gets better for you soon. God bless you and yours, -Belle L.

  5. I must went through a slump, and still not fully recovered, but I know they suck to go through. Does Fireman read your posts? If he does, maybe it will help him to read your thoughts here. I know you don't have the energy to get out of this slump alone, and I hope that you both can work a way out together. And I think you are right about maintenance, we are the same way, it's either consistent and we want it, or it falls behind and it's hard to get the interest to start again.

    {{{hugs}}} EsMay

  6. I can actually relate to the more you have/get the more you want. When we have a ton of sex I'm more in the mode, the same with consistency, when the HOHy one is "on a roll" as I like to call it, I actually crave more, even if I may not enjoy the physical discipline so much I need the mental control is a sense. I hope you guys get a chance to reconnect soon :)

    ~ Tasha

  7. Hi Elle,

    Post holiday slump maybe? Or maybe you just need to find the energy to jump on your man and end the sexual drought! :0) Hang in there, you will work through this and hopefully super quick.

    Happy thoughts and positive energy coming your way,
    Irish Lucky

  8. Aw Elle, I'm sorry you're going through this, but I have to say, I've come to realize it's a lot more normal than we think! I can totally relate to when you say you just have no desire to even fix it. I felt like that recently, and to be honest still kind of do. Don't over think it, and just let it happen. Let him lead, and sooner or later something will happen where it all just clicks and goes back to how it was before. :)