It seems driving is an easy way for me to figure things out or go through different, random thoughts. I'm in the car so often and while I'm always very alert to what's going on around me, I'm also always busy sorting things out internally. I seem to tune out the radio or movie, since the kids always want to watch a movie on even the shortest car ride, and organize thoughts.
This morning while taking #1 to her last day of VBS, I started to wonder why ttwd works. Why does maintenance (or even punishment....) leave me in such a good headspace and leave me feeling so close to Fireman? Why does having a 60/40 or 55/45 or even 51/49 relationship work the way it does?
I saw a comment, i think it was June (forgive me if I got it that wrong!!) made on another blog post in blogland about how equality doesn't really work. (I'll have to go back and see her exact quote, but it did have to do with equality, lol).
I remember at the beginning of Fireman and I living together, we had an "agreement" on dishes. We'd take turns. Do you think that worked out? Nope. Not at all. Then I'd get frustrated and eventually we'd argue over something stupid. Equality didn't really work for us then, but we couldn't see it. We weren't ready to see it, I suppose. I do this, so you have to do that, isn't the way I want to live.
Sure, we are both equally important to our relationship. But, as fireman likes to say... Only one person can drive the car, both people in the front seat, but only one driver. I've handed over the keys for good. :)
Hope everyone has a great weekend!