Texting is just about the only way we can communicate on a regular basis. Once he's home from work, we are going in a million different directions, running the kids, going from place to place, fixing dinner, helping #1 with homework, etc. We rarely have moments alone.
The kids have a soft bedtime of 8:30, no later than 9. My bedtime is 10, usually. There's not much room in there for discussions or catching up on television, or whatever ;)
Generally getting the kids in bed is a daunting task with #2. She's up and down the stairs at least 3x a night. Drives. Us. Bonkers. We threaten, ask nicely, try anything we can to keep her in bed. But it's still hard to have much time for us when she's consistently interrupting.
Texting works for us. He can check his phone several times throughout the day and we don't get sidetracked when the words are clearly written out. Even if its an hour in between replies.. We can stay on topic. It just works.
It's just another way I can feel connected to him, too. He will occasionally send me little notes to let me know he's thinking of me. I think we both find it easier to discuss important, touchy subjects when we are texting. It doesn't substitute talking in real life, but sometimes any conversation is better than none.
Yesterday we text-discussed ttwd and how it's working for us. He sent::
I've been dying to do some maintenance and really wanted to this weekend. Really and truly. I blew an opportunity yesterday (Sunday) when the kids went to ____, but you started cooking at the same time so that pretty much killed that. Idk how long it's been, but it's been too long and it needs to happen. You haven't been in trouble but I probably need to start adding more rules. Not for the purpose of increasing your odds of getting in trouble, but maybe just to help you.
I want go ahead and plan on doing maintenance tonight.
If we would've had this conversation in person, we would've gotten interrupted 49 times and sidetracked at least 5. Lol :)
We have two kids that aren't feeling well, so maintenance didn't happen. He was late getting home from his fire meeting anyway, I'm sure I probably looked like a zombie when he got home. Lol.
Maybe tonight :)