Delay, maintenance, communication :)

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Today is Friday!!! Except..... We have a small problem. Our sitter had to cancel for tonight, but she wants to watch them tomorrow. Fireman said he was sorry, but would I mind a Saturday date instead? 

Saturday is better actually. It's Friday, I'm catholic, our eating options are limited. (He's not Catholic, but I still follow my traditions). I had forgotten about everything when I asked him about a date night on Friday earlier in the week, so other than having to wait another 24 hours, it's actually better. So... Tiny delay. But, it's still happening, so I'm happy. 

We talked texted yesterday about some good stuff, too. I started out by asking if he'd read my blog post (Looking to Friday) to get his feedback on it. He's been busy lately, so he hasn't gotten the chance to make any posts or leave feedback here, but he generally always reads my posts and gives me feedback. 

** You are right in the fact that I don't want to be too strict. There's a fine line there to me and I've not yet found my own balance with rules and enforcement.

.....

I feel like you've become too attached to your phone and it takes away any interest in me and my "opportunity" to spring something spur of the moment on you. We can't even watch tv without you playing games on your phone. Hardly ever. And I'm really becoming aggravated over it. US time is few and far between as it is with the kids brung sick or not going to bed on time. 

I know you can multitask that. But that is really missing the point of why I want your undivided attention just trying to sit on the couch and enjoy a show with your or something.* 

I was a little stunned. I really had no idea. *okay* is all I could text. I was really trying to just listen. 

*I feel like every time we watch tv and you're playing in your phone and I make a light comment about quitting playing on it to watch with me, you give me a semi-aggravated retort about how you can multitask. I don't care that you can do both. I know you're capable. But you miss my point completely. I feel like I compete for your time.* 

*You didn't say it seriously. I didn't know you were that serious about it.*

*Thats me trying to be polite and not be an asshole about it. 

But it's not getting across to you.* 

*I think you're going to have to get a little stricter. Right now you're at like 0. 

I don't know when you're serious and when you aren't.*

*Nice. Alright. That's fair enough.*

.................

So, we had a good conversation after that about what's expected of me, what he's going to do, etc. I'm going to work on Submissive Elle, but I told him I feel like he needs to be more Dominate too. He agreed and actually liked the term, lol. 

I gave him all control for our date night, which is now tomorrow night. I said the minute we gets the kids to the sitter, you're in charge. Completely. I asked him how far he would take it... I'm really curious to find out. 
His only reply was *Lol. Idk. Guess you'll have to wait and see.*

Will he bring up some sort of exercise to feel his dominance? Will he request I wear something specific, do something specific (sexual or not...)?  I'm interested, but he's given no hint. I really want this control to help him, too, not just me. 

I know this twd increases his self-confidence exponentially. Here and out in the world. That's one of my favorite things about dd. He deserves to feel that way!! Last night, we had maintenance (yay!!!) and some steamy business after ;) 

I texted him this morning to get feedback on how last night went... 
*I will say I feel like a million bucks this morning.* 

*Was it the spanking or the sex?* 

*Lol, both!!* 


Now I'm looking forward to Saturday. :) I'm super glad today is Friday though.  We will have a nice dinner in as a family together. Hope everyone has a great weekend!!

Xo, 
Elle