Wednesday, November 6, 2013

It's not just for me...

I apologize in advance for any crazy typos. I'm waiting at the kids' extra-curricular stuff and had an idea for a post. I'm hoping my new iPhone is a little more blogger friendly. It seems to be already, it's much faster. I would've still been waiting on pages to load with my old phone.

I realized earlier that this whole thing isn't just for me. It's for him, too. It's for both of us. I know ttwd has given him a sense of self that has carried over into other aspects of his life. It has mine, too. I don't worry about other people so much, if that makes sense.  My relationship is the most important thing, where before who knew where it fell?

Although I'm not very good at verbalizing my needs.., as we are well working on (insert sad face), I am good at texting. I have asked for spankings when I have felt like I needed one. I can sometimes spot the spinning out of control that is looming on the horizon. Sometimes I can't and unfortunately he can't always either. I think that's something he needs to work on!! ;)  

Sometimes I just don't want to lose that connection. You know, that super yummy feeling you have that lingers after a really good/hot/delicious/whatever-adjective-you'd-like-to-use spanking session. It's like a drug that I'm addicted to. The more it happens, the more I want it. The more I crave it. However, the reverse is true also. The less it happens, the less I want it. The less connected I feel, the less important.

Then sometimes, I feel like he needs it.

I know he sometimes just needs that stress relief of smacking his hand against my ass too. :)
I don't think he's ever admitted to me that he needs it every once in a while, but  I think it's true. If I can pick up on it, I'll tell him we should have a spank appointment. He is happy to oblige.

We just had one on Monday, but I'm pretty sure we need one tonight.

Happy hump day!


  1. Hey Elle...June wrote in a post one time about how when Ward would come home and she could tell he was stressed, she would go get the brush and lay across his lap because she knew he needed that relief. She also wrote one time that sometimes, when stress got to her, that she needed daily spankings to relieve the stress and feel connected.

    There is no right or wrong...simply what works for you and your Fireman. So if you think you need an 'appointment' tonight, text the man. ;)

    Happy hump day!


  2. I agree........ sometimes we just needed and so do they! We are calling those role affirmation and it is good for both of us.

  3. Isn't it so nice when we realize THEY need it too? A spank appointment sounds great. :)

    Happy Hump Day!

  4. Hi Elle, it's amazing how you notice the changes that come from ttwd spill over to other aspects of life.

    Sometimes they do need the stress relief of a spanking too. I know when Rick introduced role affirmation he said it wouldn't be on a set schedule, it would be whenever he felt that I, we or he needed it.


  5. I think you are absolutely right Elle. When they are having a stressful time it really does seem to be a need. My husband accuses me of sleeping like a baby after (and I do) but he sleeps real well too!