Fireman here. For those keeping track, this is my first official post (well, response really). I feel compelled to give a big thanks for everyone who has input your thought, prayers, and support to my love. Seriously, thank you all.
And especially you ladies, thank you for supporting me even though you only got her side of the story - and there's ALWAYS two sides to every story. That said, I give L a lot of credit for confiding in this community, and even representing the situation fairly accurately.
I've not read every single blog she's written, but I want to say that before ttwd, there really were some bad times between us. DD in my heart has saved us. And we're still baby stepping! Lol. I won't hijack her thread any further. I want to clarify that communication has ALWAYS been a weak point for us. In the past when there were bumps, it was either silence or arguing.
Communication and resolution has typically came via text while I was away at work because that seemed the only way for us to talk without tone of voice or mannerisms making things worse. TTWD has changed US together already in such a way that the triggers to arguments and hardships has vanished. Practically overnight.
I probably wasn't as on board as I should have been, prior to the commissioning of Parts 1 - 3, but like one of the ladies pointed out, I hurt inside when things aren't right between us. But this girl is the love of my life, and my best friend. Sometimes we have to get out of our own way to fix the messes we've made. And because of the position I started off in by not knowing what was wrong, doing nothing was unacceptable so I did what I knew to do I get our house back on solid ground.
I'm thankful that she listened to all of your input, this certainly wouldn't have been resolved this soon or this well prior to DD. I'm hooked. For good. And such a believer already, I wish I could figure out how to share it with my best friend who's marriage has been falling apart.
L saved us, by finding DD and this community on her own. I can't imagine this would ever have worked if I'd have found this and tried to talk her into it. What's meant to be will be though. I'm so looking forward to being a part of this, and hopefully contributing like you guys have for us. Apologies for the novel. :-).
Till then, Fireman.